Archive-name: Miscell/gigolo.txt Archive-author: Adam Starchild Archive-title: How to Become a Gigolo There's no other line of "work" as pleasurable and as overflowing with opportunities to enjoy luxury, travel and riches as that of the gigolo. And believe it or not, today it is easier than ever for a man to enjoy life as a gigolo! To become a successful gigolo and enjoy the benefits of this kind of life, you must develop and project the proper way of thinking. There's a great difference between a "male prostitute" and a gigolo. The male prostitute makes himself available to all women of all ages, generally concentrating on bored, frustrated and "exploring" housewives looking for extra loving as well as variety to satisfy their sex needs. This type of woman is very easy to spot, and even easier to take to bed. It makes of a lot of, and a variety of beautiful sex, but it's all for free. You have to know precisely how to cultivate these women to start, and then get them to continue paying you for each time you "service" them -- not just the loan of a few dollars -- which you never intend to pay back -- but $50 or $100 plus expenses for each tryst you arrange with them. The gigolo concentrates his efforts on making himself available to widows and wives of busy businessmen who really don't care what their wives do, so long as they don't become emroiled in a public scandal. These women range in age from about 45, on into their 80s. So the first thing you're going to have to do is stop looking for ladies at or about your own age. Dress yourself more neatly, more stylishly, and begin "hanging around" the places these women frequent. You'll find very few in church! Those that you do find in church will want to possess you, and somehow or other steer you to the altar. You'll find most of them in night classes at your local college; in self-improvement, self-awareness, and new life-style classes; and of course, in all the better class supper clubs and hotel type lounges. Relative to evening college courses and self-improvement discussion groups -- these are your easiest and most fertile "hunting grounds," because psychologists long ago proved that the basic reason for adult enrollment in self-improvement programs is directly related to a person's need to be loved. All you have to do is understand this basic fact, and make yourself available to fulfill the needs of the women enrolled in these programs. Your best opportunities for "being picked by a live one" at a supper club or hotel lounge will occur between 4 and 9 in the afternoon and evening; and between 12 midnight and closing time. If you want to be a successful gigolo, play it cool and don't advertise that you're on the make. Become friends with the class instructors, discussion leaders, club managers, bartenders and waitresses. In conversations, exhibit the depth and scope of your mind by discussing at greater length the subjects being presented, current events and your own experiences as you would have them relate to those topics. Yes, your own experiences such as: last year when I was in Paris or Rome or wherever. Try to tie your own contributions to the conversation in with the subject being discussed. If you haven't been there, a visit to your public library and frequent perusal of the travel magazines should give you all the background information you need to carry on an acceptable conversation about exotic other places and your intention to visit them. When a woman seems to be "overhearing" your discussion or joins in, welcome her and project to her that you think she's intelligent, knowledgeable and an authority. Nver -- even if you're talking about sex -- size these women up or let on in any way that your ulterior motive is to get in bed with them. Know something about these countries -- you don't want to sound like a crass boorish oaf. Be friendly and courteous to them. Be sympathetic to their points of view. If you want to disagree with what they say, do so with the utmost thought, respect and compassion for their feelings. It's generally better to cater to their opinions with agreement, understanding and tact. Allow these women to come to you. Do not chase them or give them any hint that you're looking for them, or a woman of their type. Do not initiate a conversation. Make yourself available -- play hard-to-get. Let the woman exercise her independence and feelings of making her own selection. This means that unless she's really "turned on by the radiance of your personality," or else quite desperate, she will not "pick you up" on this first meeting. But don't despair -- have patience and continue your display of intelligence, good manners and charm. If you've done as instructed -- cleaned your nails and shined your shoes -- you've got her interested and she'll keep an eye on you, especially when you're with, around, or talking with other women. Whether you're in the company of a special lady you've been cultivating, in a group of men and women, or stting at the bar with a woman close by -- always try to sit next to a woman or be in a group that will include women -- put off ordering another drink. Don't volunteer by asking if you could buy the lady a drink, and don't rush to pick up the tab. Let the woman do the volunteering, the asking, and the paying. If she won't do it, another one will, and when one woman recognizes that to "get to you," she's going to have to pay, they'll all see and understand, and quickly fall into line. Those that don't aren't the ones you should be spending your time on anyway. Whenever a lady strikes up a conversation with you, let her bne the aggressor and ask the questions about you: Don't you ask the usual -- what does your husband do; where are you from, and/or what do you do for excitement. You should set the stage, lead her into asking these questions of you, and volunteering this kind of information about herself. Don't volunteer this information about yourself, nor be impatient to learn the facts of her background. She'll ask the proper questions and tell you all about herself, when she's ready to consider taking you on as her gigolo. If you must initiate the conversation or say something to take up the slack in a conversation, say things such as this weather reminds me of my trip to Rome last year; or you know, the shine from your hair and that gorgeous style reminds me of my hairdresser friend in Paris. Never start a sentence with a question. Make a statement about some romantic playground first, and then if she doesn't follow through with qestions ahout your statement, you might casually ask if she's ever been there or wanted to vist the places you're talking about. Remember this: These women are usually very wealthy, bored and sexually starved. Their men, in their struggle to become rich, often neglect their connubial duties, and die relatively young -- leaving rich widows who are hungry for fun, excitement, and sex. These wealthy widows are not adverse to using their late husband's accumulated money to pay for the services of a gigolo. Most are in fact, looking for the "right man" to attend their needs, regardless of cost! Gigolos are sometimes hired as travelling companions, business secretaries or escorts. Some people chuckle and refer to an older woman's beau as "her stud." Actually, the connotation of a "stud" is a misnomer, because the dictionary defines a stud as a male animal used, or available, for breeding purposes. Although the women paying for the services of a gigolo almost always is paying "her gigolo" for sex whenever she's in the mood, or feels the need for sex, to give her good sex is certainly not the extent of his duties, nor does the woman expect her gigolo to make her pregnant and bring forth babies. On the contrary, most gigolos are either sterile from natural causes or have had vacsectomies. You'll find that most of the women you'll be meeting as a gigolo will insist on your being sterile. Most people also think of a gigolo -- or a stud, if you will -- as having a "foot long cock as big around as a stove pipe!" Such is not the case! Most gigolos have only average size tools. They are very good lovers though. They've made a practice of reading women to the point that they know exactly what turns on the woman they're with, and they pull out all the stops to please her precisely as she wants to be pleased. A good gigolo is a good listener, a good talker, fun for a woman to be with, an actor, a real charmer, and a good lover. The women wanting you as a gigolo crave companionship, understanding, romance, and sex. In essence, a gigolo must know what to do and/or say, and precisely when to do it or say it, in order to satisfy the needs of the woman he's with, at all times. A real gigolo, one who actually lives the life of a gigolo in every sense of the word, does not pay for any of his expenses. He 5receives handsome rewards and large sums of money for his services. An outsider might be flabbergasted at the amount of money a woman spends on her gigolo, but she considers it a pittance when weighed with the pleasures she receives from his charming company. Her dreams and fantasies may continue for many years after their relationship ends, but always -- she'll want to do it all over again, and spend every time that's necessary to make it happen just like it did before... Large cities in all parts of the world, particularly resort communities abroad, are often the best places for a gigolo adventure. Cities where there are more women than men are where you should be operating -- particularly the retirement villages. In this country, go where the sun shines -- Florida, Texas, Arizona, and Southern California. Never talk too much about yourself -- your past life or specifically where you were born and raised, went to school, former marriages, kids, and so on. It would be wise to have a quality engraved business card listing your name and phone number with a message such as "world-wide trveler, lover of the better things in life...Call me anytime..." Remember our earlier advice: Play it cool... Go slow, and let them come to you...When the opportunity presents itself and the lady wants to know what you do or where you're from, you can present her with your card. From that moment on, you'll be pleasantly surprised how the word will spread and at the number of ladies that will be calling you just to talk to you... Your best approach should not be too blunt, or too direct, unless your intuition tells you this particular woman wants it that way. By the same token, don't be too timid either. Very few women want men who are timid, and that they have to tell what to do. Let it be known that you're available, remembering that you have to cultivate the friendship of these women who will do almost anything to ease their boredom and longing for male company. The gigolos way of life is not for all men. Some are psychologically unable to accept the idea of a woman footing the bills for friendship, companionship and "dream-like" lovemaking sessions in her bed. Any man wanting success as a gigolo had better get rid of these kinds of "hang-ups" or else forget about life as a gigolo. Most rich widows have received their riches from a working husband. These riches were bestowed upon them by men. Now, they have no man to talk to, to shre their travel experiences to faraway and exotic places with, and to enjoy the pleasures of sex with... They feel they have the right to bestow these riches upon whatever man they choose, and every one of them will spend whatever price it takes to attain some measure of happiness, romance, understanding, companionship, and loving. Even the rich and famous have difficulties satisfying these basic human needs. As a gigolo, you can provide all of these intangibles for them, and live like a king while you're doing it. If you feel you have the necessary attributes needed by a successful gigolo, do not just fantasize -- live them now, and live them all the way! Travel, luxury, and easily obtained riches can be yours. If you're tired of resenting the sexual success of other men, stop resenting and start doing. Enjoy everything you've always dreamed of... travel, luxury, money... And all the good sex you can handle. About the Author Adam Starchild is the author of over a dozen books and hundreds of magazine articles, primarily on business and finance. --